How to avoid moving too fast in a relationship?

Every story is different and, for some people, rushing things will work wonderfully. Conversely, for others, it will lead to a loss of interest or panic in one of the two members of the couple. Then afterwards, there is a risk of pulling away that may end in a breakup. However, it is sometimes quite difficult to hold back. You feel good even from the very beginning and it seems logical to think about speeding things up.

Why ? Sometimes, when coming out of a relationship, you may hold on to the habits you picked up with your ex-partner. Later on, when starting a new story, it is possible that, without realising it, these habits remain. You reproduce them with the new person, and they may think that you are moving far too fast with them.

Likewise, the virtual marketplace of romantic encounters nowadays encourages haste. Screens have replaced face-to-face meetings and we no longer get to know each other the way we used to. It is also a very good way to cope with loneliness. Everything is therefore faster and we project ourselves much more quickly.

Do not trust from the very first days

To start a couple’s relationship on a good footing, trust must be earned little by little. Take the time to get to know each other. Moreover, show yourself as you truly are, without forcing anything. You will thus give your feelings the time they need to express themselves and to be identified.

Do not reveal too much

At the beginning of your dates, you want to tell each other everything and know everything. But it is best to keep some information to yourself, to protect yourself. And besides, leave some things for the rest of the journey. You thus keep a few little pieces of information to surprise your partner whenever you see fit.

Take it easy on the texting

In the fever of the early days, it is extremely tempting to send messages all day long. That is perfectly understandable, but keep the quantity in check. You risk scaring off the other person, who may feel overwhelmed. Furthermore, it is also a way of making this person the centre of your life. Protect yourself and do not get too smitten, for your own good.

Putting off meeting the family

Of course, at one point or another, you will meet the family and friends of your new other half. But delay this moment as much as possible, especially in the early stages of the couple. You will thus avoid unnecessary suffering in the event of (very) good relations with your in-laws. But also avoid forming certain ideas about the situation and the person. For example: “if I meet the family now, that means he is already thinking about marriage”. And so, out of fear, you might put an end to something that could have been more than just a beginning.

Seeing your own family and friends

Starting a new relationship does not mean cutting yourself off from the rest of the world. It is important not to cut yourself off from your personal relationships and your loved ones. Do not stop living. Of course, you will set aside time for your couple in the making, but keep taking some for yourself and going out with your friends. They are just as important.

Do not be constantly at the other’s place

Just like everything else, ending up every day in the other person’s flat right from the start is not the best idea for taking your time. You must keep a certain distance and not intrude too much into the other person’s life from the very first moments of the couple. Do not give up your own home.