How to decode a man’s texts?

At some point we have all stayed stuck on the last message received from our beloved, trying to decode a hidden meaning in it. Sometimes, even friends and relatives are called upon to help. Let’s be honest, today we all communicate by message. This means has thus become the main possible instrument of contact after meeting someone, or to communicate within a couple.

SMS have taken on an important place. Just like the letters we used to send each other in the past, the substance and form of these messages can be revealing of a man in love, interested or simply distant. At least they spare us the long days of waiting for a reply. Although…

The reply time

This is one of the formal characteristics to take into account when analysing an SMS. If you get direct replies, constantly, and these inspire enthusiasm and joy in you, there is no real cause to worry about the sender’s motivations.

Sometimes, too, a reply can keep you waiting. And you will wonder whether it is not a way of playing hard to get. It is indeed possible. As we well know, it is a technique we all use. Also bear in mind that, in general, we want to avoid frightening the other person and therefore not to bombard them with SMS. We don’t want them to think they’ve ended up with a neurotic. That said, if after several days you receive only a single message without much enthusiasm and rather brief, it is fairly plausible that it will go no further.

The time the SMS is sent

Another important thing for decoding a girl’s texts or a man’s: the time they are sent. There are big differences between early-morning messages to wish someone a good day and those that arrive at midnight after a slightly boozy evening out. In general, SMS late in the evening are quite revealing of their recipient’s hopes.

An interested person will check in on you. And most of the time, you won’t have to go to them. The best is when a balance settles in; each side thus feels the other’s interest.

Some people may also simply be slow, or even shy about taking the initiative. After that, it’s up to you to judge. If you feel he is starting to let himself go and to wait for you to make the first move, why not take a little distance?

It is also a good test to find out whether the interest arises on his side without any help from you.
One more thing: someone interested in taking a relationship further will generally take the time to talk and to get to know the other person. Perhaps because the stakes are higher in their eyes.

Conversely, a person interested in a fling will be more direct in their suggestions to go out. Moreover, they will be less inclined to open up over the phone.

In the end, trust your intuition. It will help you a great deal in the majority of cases. Simply pay attention to it. Sometimes, for example, the messages seem cold, or gradually become more spaced out over time. This may very well mean, in hidden SMS language, that he is trying to make you understand he is not interested. So what does your intuition tell you? “Don’t insist“.

• Lots of exclamation marks will emphasise the person’s enthusiasm.
• Question marks show insistence.
• A full stop added at the end of a sentence is rather definitive. It is little used in SMS language and signals, in a way, that the conversation is over. In general, it will be accompanied by short sentences.
• Perhaps you have something to be forgiven for? And finally, the ellipsis or the three little dots. They arouse mystery and are quite used to refer to innuendo. You’ve understood perfectly …