What are the 4 pillars of a couple?

The element of communication is fundamental in the life of a couple. Without communication, a relationship is doomed from its very beginning. How can you hope to succeed in a relationship or a marriage if you do not talk to one another? Before judging your man, have you thought about sharing your problem with him? When your wife feels low, have you asked her about her trouble?

Of course, communication does not happen in just any way. It must be based on respect as well as the honesty of both partners. By revealing what is on your heart to your partner, you share your desire to communicate with this person. In return, the other will make an effort on their side. As you will have understood, communicating allows couples to survive the harsh trials of life.

Trust is one of the fundamental pillars of any healthy couple. Indeed, this feeling allows couples to reach an even stronger bond than that of marriage. During love therapy sessions, the specialist teaches couples to rediscover the trust that once united them.

For love specialists, giving your trust to a person means:  

• Sharing your deepest thoughts with them, without fear of being betrayed. 
• Feeling physically and spiritually safe within your couple, at all times. 
• Being supported by your partner in every circumstance. 

This does not mean that you will ignore everything in the name of love. However, the presence of this mutual trust allows you both to sleep peacefully. Deep in your mind, you know that if this trust is there, then you have nothing to fear.

Desire precedes the arrival of love. Our instinct drives us to feel desire in certain circumstances, for example, in a love relationship.

According to Father Denis Sonet, there is nothing wrong with expressing one’s desire within one’s couple, quite the contrary. The father was famous for the words he shared with the Christian couples who attended his church. Now passed away, the father’s words remain anchored in history. Among them, we interpret this quotation about desire: 

Your couple is a castle and desire its pillar. The two of you hold the keys to your marital chamber and are its ultimate masters. Surrender to one another, be tender and let love triumph.

To rekindle the flame of desire in your couple 

To make desire last in a couple, it is sometimes good to use the strategy called C.A.R.E, a method in which desire plays an integral part.

The desire we feel in a relationship simply reflects our expectations of life. As a result, this desire varies according to the stage we are going through. So, for the couples worried about their sex life, Fabienne reassures them: everything is normal.  

However, Fabienne considers it necessary to make the distinction between your desire and that of your lover. Thus, a holy love is built on the respect of mutual desire. For a love relationship to last, both participants must feel fulfilled. 

In general, society considers marriage as a total union of two individuals. Some argue that the notion of freedom no longer has its place in a marriage. The same can apply to couples who have lasted a long time.

In reality, this mistaken belief brings an end to many couples.  You are in a love relationship, certainly, but that does not turn you into a shadow.

You are entitled to your share of freedom and so is your partner. With trust being established in your couple, you preserve your love without harming the respect of your private lives.